things we noticed, knew, or practiced before we could ask what relationality is
regardless of how we encountered or appropriated the term ‘relationality’ in whatever languages we use, relationality is something we likely began perceiving and/or practicing before it was given a coherent name. ‘backwards incidentality’ encourages a spatio-temporally non-linear understanding of inquiry which entails recalling an undifferentiated pool of relational experiences before ‘relationality’ was named and defined.
in this participatory archive, we cast a glance back and around us at instances of relationality—a collective articulation of how we understand relationality by sharing past practices, encounters, and wonderings that, although not originally understood as relational, now make relational sense. things that were not sought as part of an intentional inquiry into relationality but that have incidentally become and continue to become our relational inquiry.
think of the first example that helped you perceive relationality as you understand it, or the one you’d resort to if you had to explain it to someone who has never engaged with the notion.
the archive is a collection of stories, objects, and images that can be engaged with physically on the table or digitally on the website. read, listen, look, and touch—just a few, a dozen, or all of them—then head to the end of the table and to this page to add your own thoughts and stories.


























John Gardener wrote the world of Grendel, the monster from the myth of Beowulf, whose thoughts were occupied by the complexity of the relationality between himself and the queen of Heorot, which at one point he tried to mathematically address:
“(He lies on the cliff edge, scratching his belly, and thoughtfully watches his thoughtfully watching the queen.) Not easy to define. Mathematically, perhaps a torus, loosely cylindrical, with swellings and constrictions at intervals, knobbed—that is to say, a surface generated, more or less, by the revolutions of a conic about an axis lying in its plane, and the solid thus enclosed. It is difficult, of course, to be precise. For one thing, the problem of determining how much is queen and how much queenly radiation.”
—John Gardner, Grendel, 1971









backwards incidentality
those who choose can participate in the archive here.
answers to the question of relationality, like all answers, come from specific places, specific bodies, with specific concerns. feminist epistemologies assert that knowledge is embodied, and that having a body, occupying a location in the world, speaking a language, and much else contributes to constituting a unique position from which to partake in the world. additionally, they remind us that the issue with the situatedness of knowledge does not end with disclaiming the factors we have come to recognize as influencing our knowing practices. rather, it starts there.
the partiality of our knowledge should lead us to seek connections with those who turn out to be missing from it. had those bodies, ways of living, and spaces been included, the resulting knowledge that was missing them would no longer be the same. when essentialism is allowed to subside, the determination of boundaries around each notion, body, and community has far-reaching effects both into its future and past.
it is in this dynamism—this nonlinear connection between different pasts and different futures—that we need to ask and answer what relationality is. adopting a post-constructionist and corporeal feminist stance means that outlining the implications of relationality for design and articulating a better future through relational design is inextricably bound with what relationality is taken to mean and who/what participates in delineating that boundary.
grounding our understanding of relationality in examples that helped each of us understand it, illuminates the places from which it comes, and more importantly, the places from which it doesn’t. ‘backwards incidentality’ is a call on the community that has gathered around relational design to collectively trace seemingly trivial beginnings to their relational inquiries. the aim is not merely to affirm that our understandings of relationality are specific and partial once stripped of the academic jargon, but to look for missing connections and shift the boundary of what we take relationality to mean by seeking what is absent.
the objects, phenomena, or ways of life we use to explain, exemplify or motivate relationality shape the implications we draw from relationality for design. in a way, the further our examples stray from the scholarly discourse of relationality, the better chance they stand of escaping homogenized academic terminology, detailing what relationality could mean in the materiality of the world and the happening of everyday life, and through those details, making us accountable to the versions of the world we reproduce through our notion of relationality. ‘backwards incidentality’ seeks to retrieve the rich entanglements from which our different understandings of relationality emerge, as a way of accountably and responsibly outlining the implications of a relational design.
this project is part of broader research on the reproduction of design as a practice at the division of industrial design, lund university, sweden.
sheida amiri rigi
sheida.amiri_rigi@design.lth.se
august 2025